Stop Being Shy

How To Stop Being Shy

When it comes to tips for helping people to stop being shy there are a great many available these days. This type of social phobia is really common, and most people are at least a little shy. If we are too shy it can cause a lot of problems in our life, and we can easily miss out on a lot of things that could make life really enjoyable. For this reason it is of great benefit if people find way of tackling their shyness. This does not mean that they have to become an extrovert overnight, but it does mean that people will be able to stop being shy enough to enjoy life and socialise.

Being shy is not always such a bad thing. In fact sometimes shyness can help us if it discourages us from being too friendly with strangers who might be dangerous. It is only when shyness really starts to stop us doing things that it becomes a problem.

Shyness can cause a variety of symptoms. It might cause your heart to race or give you the feeling of having butterflies in your stomach. It can make you feel jumpy or needing to use the bathroom. Many people can blush when they are shy, and their breathing might change in pattern. Some people can even feel faint when they feel shy. Sometimes the symptoms can be quite severe and in these cases it would be wise to seek professional help to stop being shy.

The way most people learn to stop being shy is by putting themselves into positions where they need to socialise with other people. Being more extroverted can often be learnt, and in the beginning you might just have to ‘fake it to make it’. To do this you need to make an effort to be around more people. One way of doing this is through your hobbies and interests. If you love reading then you might want to join a reading group, while if you love walking you could join a group of walkers; almost every hobby will have a way that you can share it with other people.

It is most often our own thoughts that keep us shy and afraid to socialise. There are a few ways that we can deal with these thoughts and help us to stop being shy. The first thing we need to do is examine our thoughts more carefully. If our mind is telling us that nobody likes us it is important to examine this idea. Despite what you might see on television there are very few mind readers out there and it is doubtful that you really know what is going on inside someone’s head.

It is also not usually possible for you to see into the future. This means that there is no way that you can know if strangers are going to dislike you. Knowing this can encourage us to be more willing to meet new people. If we want to stop being shy it is important that we tackle all of these ideas that are keeping us away from other people; once they are made subject to logic you will find that most will drop away.

Another reason why people feel a bit shy is that they have too much of the focus on themselves. If we shift our perception, to concentrate more on other people and our surrounding, then this can often significantly reduce our experience of feeling shy.  

Shyness may not go away overnight, but if we try some of the techniques above or some of the many other ones you will find then hopefully this will help you to stop being shy.