Getting Over Someone

Getting Over Someone – How to Do This Effectively

Getting over someone can be a very difficult time in your life.  We all know that there are many factors that come into play when you start this process.  How long were you together?  Are there children involved?  Do you work together?  How close do you live to one another?  Regardless of the factors, you can get over the other person with some persistence and hard work.  It is not going to be easy but you can succeed if you are determined.

The first thing that you need to do is cut off all communication with that person.  That may be difficult in today’s society when everyone has a cell phone and everyone is involved in online social networks.  However, this is very important if you are going to be able to one day open your heart to new relationships in your life.  You can not call this person, talk to them online, text him or her, or take calls from them.  You must be able to stand your ground and stay focused on getting over them.  Occupy your time with hobbies, friends or family so that you are able to forget about them.

It is really important to work towards having fun without that person.  What did you enjoy before he or she came along?  Think about that start enjoying your freedom.  You may also want to think about new things you would like to try but never had the time for.  Maybe this person kept you from doing something.  If that is the case, do it now.  Your mind will be occupied with new adventures and you may be thankful that you learned something new.

The next thing you are going to do is get rid of the things around your home and in your car that remind you of that person.  Get a box or a bag and begin gathering these things up so that you can put them away.  You may not want to throw anything out in the garbage because you may want to look at things once you are finally over this person.  You are never going to be able to erase your past and you may not want to.  You may have learned a lot from this person and one day you will be thankful for that.  But, right now you just want to heal.  So, simply box everything up and but the box somewhere out of your way.  This will ensure that you do not have to constantly look at it.  This will help you get over the person a lot faster.

Some people will even recommend dating someone else.  This is not going to be someone that you will spend the rest of your life with.  However, it will be someone that you can laugh with or spend lonely evenings with.  Simply having someone to talk to and to spend quality time with can make all the difference.  Find someone of the opposite sex to have dinner with or to go to a movie with.  It will give you something to look forward to and it is exciting to be with someone different for a change.

You had a support system and a life before this person entered it.  Who were those people and what was that life like?  It may be nice to get back to the things that you enjoyed.  You may find out that you were missing a lot while you were with the love of your life.  Getting over someone is not easy and it does not happen over night.  Rely on the people that love you to help you through this tough time.  Your heart will eventually heal and you are going to love again.  The question is, how long is it going to take?